I just got word that a very good friend gave birth yesterday (three weeks early). As I’m not someone who has ever given birth, I’m always a bit baffled watching people react. What does a new mom need? What can I do to help? Here is my take on what I’ve observed with input from Christine (who is a Mom).
- Helping visitors are most welcome. These are people who arrive with food and leave. Or arrive with food, then fold your laundry and leave. They don’t ask if it is ok to sweep your floor or feed your cat.
- Helping visitors who just do what needs doing are better than those who ask, “what can I do”? Both are good, but the former is best.
- Visiting visitors are less welcome. Visitors who must be entertained and fed, and who stay for long periods of time are not helpful. (Update: I’m assured that visiting visitors ARE welcome for baby cuddles -and Mom needs company and moral support too)
- This list seems to sum it up well (link originally found on www.giverslog.com): Gloria Lemay’s Ten things to do for a new Mom
Congrats Christine. I can’t wait to meet Jellybean. I will bring Lasagna.
I agree with all these suggestions. I would add that if there are older siblings, an offer to take them out for a bit would be most welcome.